Be the change you want to see in the world.

(Mahatma Gandhi)

Dear OSMA community,

Every spring budding is a sign of new life, a time for a new story, for awakening of new level of consciousness as an individuals and as a society.  

Spring has come, the days are already longer and the sun is warmer, spring flowers are beginning to bloom on sunny banks and life is suddenly much brighter than in the dark days of December. Gardens are waking up and will soon need our full attention. Even the pandemic is slowly receding allowing a little bit more freedom of movement, everyday stuff and even some ethereal personal interactions. We will be able to air our flats and houses to get of little annoyances, while governments try to get enough vaccine to immunize us. It’s much slower than it should be. Patience, as a commentator at the Ski World Championship stressed at every slalom curve, is the key to success. In meantime, we can prepare ourselves for the big leap in autumn, when we can hope realistically that things will be better and daily life may return to normal perspectives. And between now and then, the spring sun will fill us with new vibrations, energy and positive thinking, which will mature in the heat of summer, and give us additional impulse to carry out our plans, fulfil our dreams.

OSMA Academy Team is actively working along these lines, having regular zoom meetings to discuss future prospects and to plan events accordingly with a focus on you and our growing community of the leaders.

If the truth is, that every human being looking in anything what he is doing a sense of purpose, we like to share with you today a thought from the book “The Happiness Hypothesis”, written by New York University business school professor and happiness expert Jonathan Haidt.

He said:” Happiness is arguably one of the most important goals in life. It can also feel like one of the most elusive, perhaps because people are chasing the wrong things. But there is a way to lasting happiness and purpose.

The mistakes people make in finding happiness

“Many people think that happiness comes from getting what you want. But when we get what we want it feels good “only for a very short time — that doesn’t bring us lasting happiness.

People also think, “You’ll never succeed in controlling the world…so focus on yourself…and that is the path to happiness. The Stoics in the West, the Buddhists and Hindus in many other Eastern philosophies came to this view. But it is not the answer either. This view … ‘don’t try to change the world at all — just work on yourself- that’s not really the best way.”

Finally, humans equate happiness with not having any restrictions on their time, being “individuals with a lot of freedom floating around. But “even though they often think they want that” that’s not what actually makes people the happiest.

The best way to find lasting happiness and purpose

So, what is the answer?

“Happiness is best described as coming from between — that is if you get the right kind of relationship between yourself and other people, yourself and your work, and yourself and something larger than yourself … if you get those three relationships right … it will draw you out into the world, it will engage your passions, it will give you the kind of support that you need and want and it’ll give you a sense of meaning and purpose in life.

Here’s how to get the relationships right, according to Haidt:

  1. Improve your personal connections by showing gratitude

“No man is an island. We cannot be happy isolated. We need good connections. If you are seeking to improve your personal relationships, practice gratitude, or being thankful. The gratitude — cultivating gratitude, expressing gratitude — strengthens relationships. The benefits of having strong relationships do not depend on having a single partner. Don’t just focus on one romantic partner. Focus on finding a group of friends who hang out and do things together.”

  1. Utilize your unique strengths at work

“Humans are industrious creatures, we need to experience the world as something that we’re acting on, something we’re making better, something we’re participating in. If you are struggling to find work that gives your life meaning, begin by identifying what you are good at and work to build a career around that. To the extent that you get to use your strengths every day in your work, you’re more likely to thrive, you’re more likely to feel that you’ve gotten the right relationship between yourself — who you are with your unique strengths — and the work that you’re doing every day.”

  1. Embed yourself in a community

People “evolved to live in tight tribes, in groups. And in our modern lives we have so much privacy, so much alone time, we miss that. We thrive when we feel like we’re part of something larger than ourselves. That can come from religious participation, it can come from participation in a political movement, in something that makes you feel that you are on a team that is doing something worthwhile. The happiest people are people who are deeply embedded in a community … they tend to be happiest when they’re embedded in a group in a community, especially if it’s one that has values that they respect.”

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INSTEAD OF CONCLUSION:

Good Bones by Maggie Smith, a poem provided by our OSMA member Marjana at December “Gifting Celebration”:

Life is short, though I keep this from my children.
Life is short, and I’ve shortened mine
in a thousand delicious, ill-advised ways,
a thousand deliciously ill-advised ways
I’ll keep from my children. The world is at least
fifty percent terrible, and that’s a conservative
estimate, though I keep this from my children.
For every bird there is a stone thrown at a bird.
For every loved child, a child broken, bagged,
sunk in a lake. Life is short and the world
is at least half terrible, and for every kind
stranger, there is one who would break you,
though I keep this from my children. I am trying
to sell them the world. Any decent realtor,
walking you through a real shithole, chirps on
about good bones: This place could be beautiful,
right? You could make this place beautiful.

Your OSMA Academy Team

Editorial Board: Branka Javornik, Marjana Lavrič Šulman, Hermina Krt

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